In the comics, Spider-man has always been very strong and had great resistance to Blunt force.
In the previous movies, this aspect was explained (but arguably not used as much), but just like most of the backstory (Radioactive spider bite, Death of uncle ben, etc), Homecoming has barely referenced it at all, mostly because there were already lots of people who weren't interested in watching "just another spider-man reboot", and didn't care if it was part of the shared universe this time, or made by another studio, etc. The writers probably decided that most people knew the backstory, and they could skip that part to get more time for actual new content.
Unfortunately, this means that some people might have no idea why Spider-man is so powerful.
He is not immune to sharp objects or puncturation (bullets), but is more likely to survive them because of his (pretty weak) healing factor, large reserves of stamina (and more efficient rest to regain stamina fast), superhuman strength and resistance, and spider-sense.
Spider-man's resistance is not fixed, and unless the force is obviously weak (normal person punching him) or obviously deadly (getting hit by a large meteor), the plot usually dictates how much anything blunt will hurt him, depending if the writers need him to pass out or to keep fighting.
Furthermore, even though it hasn't been explicitly mentioned in the movie, Marvel has stated that Peter does have the spider-sense in the MCU. He probably hasn't learned to use it efficiently yet, and maybe he hasn't even noticed it, but one possible explanation for surviving the collapsing building or crashing plane could be a subconscious spider-sense fueled reaction protecting his more vulnerable body parts, like most of the head and joints, with his arms and legs (he is also extremely agile!). Minimising the strongest part of the impact, and being incredibly resilient overall, would probably be a credible explanation.
Of course, the movie also made a point to show that Peter was already worn out before even getting to the plane, because of the building thing, and he was barely able to move after that crash. He is resilient, but not immune at all.
So yes, in many comics, spider-man is that resilient, and so the film makers decided to make it so in Homecoming.
As for the scenes thing, I wouldn't be able to give you any specific examples, but after 50 years of spider-man comics, plus the numerous team ups with the Avengers, the X-men, Deadpool, and all the other teams in Marvel Comics, I would assume that he has been pinned Under a collapsed building and in a crashing plane at least once. The opposite would be extremely surprising.